Are Co-Ed Sober Living Homes a Good Idea?
A sober living house is a living space specifically designed for men and women who are new to addiction recovery. In most instances, this will act as the final phase of treatment before an individual transition back into fully independent living. Sober living houses provide structure and continuous support; they implement a solid set of rules, restrictions, and guidelines geared towards maintaining accountability and keeping individuals sober, healthy, and happy. Some of the rules that reputable sober living homes enforce include:
- Being home by a certain time every evening, usually no later than 10 pm.
- Getting a job and working full or part-time, or if work is not feasible than volunteering or going to school full or part-time.
- Going to at least one 12 steps meeting every day, and working through the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous with a same-gendered sponsor.
- Maintain a clean-living space and participate in daily house chores – this will include keeping common areas and individual rooms clean and tidy.
- Participating in an intensive outpatient or outpatient program.
- Agreeing to drug tests whenever suspicious behavior is brought to the attention of support staff, or drug tests at least once every two weeks otherwise.
- Being respectful of other residents and interacting in productive and positive ways.
- Only having members of the same sex over the residence.
Which brings us to our next point – co-ed sober living homes, also known as couples sober living, are not always a good idea.
Why Are Co-Ed Sober Homes Not the Best Idea?
When choosing a sober living home, you must choose a residence that offers gender-specific living situations. Living with members of the opposite sex is not a good idea for the following reasons:
- Living with members of the opposite sex serves as a major distraction.
- In early recovery, men and women often look to fill the “void” left by an absence of chemical substances with things like short-lived romantic relationships and meaningless sex. This void must be filled by comprehensive recovery, which is generally only possible to achieve in gender-specific settings.
- Members of the same sex need to form meaningful and lasting friendships with one another.
- Gender-specific housing allows men and women to openly discuss gender-specific issues, like masculinity or the role that female hormones play in relapse triggers and relapse prevention.
Living in a co-ed sober living house is not just a bad idea, couples sober living homes generally indicate a less-than-reputable program and should generally be avoided. Halfway houses that have the best interest of their clients at heart will always separate the men and the women so that they can focus solely on their recovery with no distractions.
Riverbend Residence and Gender-Specific Sober Living
At Riverbend Residence, we have two male-specific sober living homes and two female-specific sober living homes. Each house is clean and comfortable and holds both residents and staff members to an extremely high standard. Support staff lives on-site so that they can assist residents 24-hours a day and ensure that all guidelines are being met by everyone daily. If you are looking for a quality, comfortable sober living home in New Jersey, Riverbend Residence is an ideal option.
We will gladly give anyone interested in an in-person tour, answering any questions that you may have. To learn more about gender-specific New Jersey sober living or to inquire more about the services and amenities we provide, please feel free to reach out today at (844) 505-3447 for confidential help around the clock. We look forward to meeting you and providing you with the quality continuation of care you both need and deserve.